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Battle of the Attention Span

Children with ADHD can be an absolute delight. They see a world much more colorful than our own and it’s hard not to be swept away by their enthusiasm. A few days ago, my son ran from his room (naked) where I had sent him (clothed) only moments before, practically convulsing because he had to tell me NOW about his overly-complex-but-might-actually-work scheme. He invented a steam-powered automaton to reach books from the top shelf, where his object of desire sat out of reach (the fact said object was not what I asked him to get is beside the point). He then proceeded to impart the details (oh, GOD, the copious details) complete with flapping arms, detailed blueprints, and a financial plan, all without realizing his nakedness. He was a snow ball thundering into an avalanche, only interrupted by a brief moment of irritation when mommy pointed out his breezy behind.

I wish I could say I was always a hundred percent enthusiastic during these daily, often charming phenomenon, but I’m not. While I’ve come to understand my five-year-old simply thinks better when his nether regions are free, I’ve also realized his enthusiasm cannot run unbridled all the time (for the sake of everyone’s sanity). No one likes to contain enthusiasm, especially a child’s, but if you have an ADHD kid you know what I mean.

I suppose this scenario illustrates the difference between an ADHD and non-ADHD brain. One of us thinks brilliantly with pants off, while the other can’t think of anything until we’ve scrambled to put them on! Socially, we would label the naked thinker the “odd” one, but when you think about it, there’s technically nothing wrong with pant-less pontificating. Unfortunately, our society’s moral order favors pants. If you keep forgetting to put them on, you’re quickly isolated as a freak, loser, moron, degenerate, and so on. And this is one of the most damaging ways to deal with an ADHD person: mistaking clinical behavior for moral behavior.

No where does an ADHD child feel the weight of moral order more than in school. Why? Because teachers, on average, are attracted to the profession because they enjoy order and goal-oriented activity. This kind of adult brain, unfortunately, is often at odds with the ADHD brain because it functions at the opposite extreme. There has, actually, been research on this. In 2006, using a personality test called the Kolbe Index, Arizona State University requested five hundred students and teachers take the Index. Their scores were then compared. The average teacher tended to work best by organizing, researching, and attending to details. The average ADD student? Experimenting, taking chances, and hands-on problem solving.

What does this mean? Ultimately, it turns what should be strengths into classroom power struggles. If you’re a young child and your way of learning causes problems, you automatically assume you are in the wrong. If you’re a teenager, you might feel a tad rebellious about it, especially if your report cards have been filled with comments about your lack of attention. I fully recognize not all teachers are oblivious to this, but sadly, many are. And this is where your child’s method of processing becomes moralized (usually negatively so). His or her teacher has assumed the lack of focus is a deliberate lack of effort. Of course, I shouldn’t have to point out the teacher is wrong.

Because grades are such a big deal, this type of moralizing is more obvious in school. The self-confidence of ADHD children is slowly eroded away, and the erosion starts early. No matter how smart they are, they have trouble following through, hearing directions, paying attention, and keeping calm. When these behaviors are assumed to be an issue of willpower, how could they not feel bad about themselves when called out in class?

But parents must remember, moralizing happens at home too. And if you homeschool and are also your child’s teacher, you must be doubly aware of such assumptions. So what can you do? Intentional or not, teaching an ADHD child is hard! It is extremely difficult to get my son to listen long enough to learn something, and even more difficult for him to retain the information. What’s the best way to teach without screaming or having an emotional breakdown?

Luckily, there are techniques which do work. Even better, these techniques are not hard to learn, and their proper execution might spare your child years of negative indoctrination. There is a two tier method for teaching an ADD child, and they work for both parents and teachers. The first is Keeping Perspective and the second is Functional Interventions. Let’s discuss them one at a time.


As mentioned previously, the system generally treats ADHD kids as problems. Please don’t assume I think teachers are villains. Indeed, I empathize with them for they are equally trapped in the politics of public school. Such politics restrict teacher’s creative abilities and encourage catering to core measures. It’s my belief that if a student is not 100% average, school is simply not designed for him.

Unfortunately, schools are designed to keep students at roughly the same educational level. Public schools simply lack the framework to foster your child’s unique mind. Instead of a welcome alternate pathway, ADHD children become unwelcome divergents. And because they have trouble focusing, they make easy scapegoats. The emotional burden this causes is dramatic and was evident in our son, Kallan, within just four months of kindergarten (you can read about it here: )

If you are the parent of an ADHD child, you are already familiar with his or her unique brilliance. Despite knowing your child’s creativity and intelligence, however, it’s tempting to jump on the negative bandwagon, especially when report cards start rolling in.


“Dear Parent, your son would get better grades if he would pay attention in class and stop talking when he should be listening!”

The truth is, an ADHD brain cannot be rewired. You can’t fix it. There’s nothing to fix. But as a parent, you can be trained to help your child make connections he or she would otherwise miss. You can improve your child’s attention span by changing the way you interact during learning time. Work on your method first and your child’s confidence will blossom. When he is old enough to recognize his unique learning needs, you can back off and turn over the reigns.

The reason educators lose their cool are many, but the most common reason is that an inattentive learner makes you feel unimportant, taken for granted, and ignored. Second, it’s worrying when your child can’t seem to learn something, even when you’ve covered the same topic three hundred times. In other words, we start to take it personally.

I wish I could say ADD children “grow out of it,” but my husband still forgets things he should know, especially when driving. Despite having gone over directions in detail, my husband still gets lost on a frequent basis (even when he’s been to the same several times before!) Yet, he can navigate a first-person shooter with ease and remember every nook and cranny! If only I could hypnotize him into thinking he’s trapped in a live action game of Doom…


Actually…that’s a terrible idea.

The most important thing to remember, as a parent, is that a child’s inability to pay attention is not a personal failing. Furthermore, it is not intentional. Last, their way of learning is not wrong.

When your son is running around without pants (seriously, why are your pants off AGAIN?), yelling during an invisible fight with light sabers (for the hundredth time, use your inside voice!), and you’re trying to corral him into one room (where are the dog gates!), it’s very hard not to lose your composure.

Like me, you’re going to fail to remain calm sometimes (okay…many times). There are days it seems like I have to turn into a raving maniac to get anyone to pay attention to me. If you have an outburst, then remove yourself from the situation to cool off (yes, I have been sent to my room before).  Once you’re alone, it’s time to remember ADD children cannot help their hyperactivity and lack of focus. Also keep in mind they are constantly subjected to other people’s displeasure, which slowly corrupts their self esteem. When you blow up, remember your kid is a victim of his own brain wiring.

Every day I must remind myself of this, not only for my son, but for my husband as well (who has ADD).  What I am about to write sounds terrible, but it’s my method of coping. Sometimes, I literally have to think of their ADD as a form of brain damage–as if they had been in an accident, suffered a terrible concussion, and permanently damaged their memory storage. I couldn’t blame someone for an accident that changed his brain and, frankly, ADD is a little like that. Only, the different wiring is from birth. As a non-ADD spouse and mother, I must have tremendous willpower to chose humor over anger and to remember it’s unintentional, especially when your husband fails to realize your son’s car seat wasn’t fastened until after arriving at his destination. Across the city.


To wrap up, the most fundamental task for being a good educator is to keep things in perspective. Do not blame your child (or husband). Try to keep your cool. Remember he or she must learn differently by their very nature.


Below is a list of proven strategies for teaching an ADD child. They all focus on one of two things: Accommodating movement and capturing attention.

One sentence commands. This is a big one. When my son runs through the living room pantless, I say, “Kallan,  pants, please.” If I say, “Kallan, go to the laundry pile and get some clean pants and underwear, then brush your teeth,” I’ve already lost him. I can guarantee I’ll find him in the laundry room playing with the dryer sheets. People without ADD take their executive functioning for granted. It’s easy for us to remember several steps for a task, but this is not true for those with ADD. The more you limit commands to short, single sentences, the more follow-through you will see.

Confirm eye contact. Before issuing any command, it’s a good idea to ensure your child is making eye contact. It may not last long, but asking him to look at you before you impart something important is going to improve his retention. How do you know if you’re doing it right? If it feels like you’re training a dog, you’re doing great. Harsh, but true. It works!

Remove distractions from the environment. As you probably know, ADHD children cannot tune out environmental distractions. If there is a red piece of paper on the ground, it is always there, screaming “RED!” Everyone else can forget about it and work on the math problem, while the child with ADD is thinking about what he would like to draw on the red paper. Eventually, parents learn what their ADHD kid is distracted by. Just make sure homework is done in a place where all the toys, crayons, and Legos have been removed. Don’t let them study in their room, where distractions abound. Try the kitchen or sitting room. And above all, keep the TV and computer off!

Allow music without lyrics. One of the central issues with ADHD is an inability to stop outside stimuli from invading your brain. As I understand it, there is a constant background noise of thoughts which can sabotage homework. This can be ameliorated by replacing brain noise with outside white noise.  You’ll be amazed how far a white noise CD will go. Even simpler, hop on youtube and you’ll find an awesome collection of background noise options: rainfall, ocean waves, meditative chimes. This simple trick can really aid concentration, but be sure not to use music with words. Lyrics pretty much defeat the purpose of having something on that can be ignored.

Purchase a wobble chair. Oh, man! These things are great. Rest assured I have no business arrangement with this company. I am simply an impressed customer. The idea is simple: ADHD children need to move around, and sitting at a desk is agony for them. They are constantly being told to “be still!” The problem: it’s physically impossible. My husband still paces the house a hundred times when he’s on the phone. When he sits during a movie, he shakes his leg nonstop.

So, instead of fighting it, accommodate it! There are chairs on the market designed to wobble while the child sits at a desk. It allows her body to move, which, in turn, actually improves her concentration. The average wobble chair runs around fifty bucks, which isn’t too bad because they last a long time. If your child has any kind of personal action plan at school, discuss the need for him or her to move while focusing, and make them approve a wobble chair for school use.

Use a bouncy band. Much like the wobble chair, a bouncy band is a rubber band children can place on their desk legs. It allows them to move and exercise their legs whenever desk time is required. They are less expensive than the wobble chair, but don’t last as long. If you have the money, why not get both? And consider its use at home, too. If you homeschool, this might be the trick you need to get your child to sit down and do some paperwork! These bands can be found all over the internet. This brand is sold on Please check my (growing) list of internet resources and links for companies offering these kinds of ADHD products.

bouncy band


Give them a fidget. Ah, thank god for fidgets. I had no idea what these were until I looked online for some kind of stupid wobbly thing my son could play with to stop him from molesting everything in the grocery aisle. I was shocked to discover there is an entire industry devoted to fidgets! Designed for ADHD and autistic children, fidgets allow little hands to remain busy. For many children, this improves their concentration and can help them remain at a desk for prolonged periods. I am particularly fond of desk fidgets like the one below, called the Desk Buddy. These rest on desktops so fingers can get sensory stimulation. They are small, cheap, and are less distracting to other children when used in the classroom. The Desk Buddy is only ten dollars and can be obtained through,

desk buddy

Wait five seconds. This intervention saved my sanity. My son has a habit of saying, “what,” any time I tell him something. For five years, I repeated myself, often getting angry he couldn’t listen to an answer he asked for! Then I learned this little trick. Remember that ADD children have slower processing times. They literally have to push aside all the incoming information to hear your comment from everything else. If you give a command to your child, wait five seconds. This allows processing time. Since starting this, moral really improved in my household. Now every time my son says, “what,” I remain silent for five seconds. Most the time (about 90%) he figures out what I said and the conversation continues without having to repeat myself.

Does this sound familiar: “You have until the count of five before you go in time out!” If you’re the type of parent who counts down to a reprimand, this trick will work wonderfully. First, announce you’re starting the countdown. Then wait five seconds. If there is no response, start with the countdown. Allowing this brief pause before starting the count can allow time for processing.

And more importantly, this technique can be used during learning time. When explaining an important concept, use brief sentences, then wait five seconds before continuing on. I think you’ll be impressed with the change.

Give verbal & visual encouragement. You know, many ADHD children go through their school day without an iota of encouragement. Not ONE. What they do hear is a lot of redirection, “calm downs,” and reprimands. If your child attends public school, imagine what it would be like to hear how you fall short at your schoolwork, only to go home and do more schoolwork. Schoolwork that you’ve been told you suck at. It’s not terribly encouraging.

Every child needs to hear encouragement, but parents have to be aware of what’s going on to provide it in the right context. If you see your son sitting and reading, tell him how great that is! Did he finally complete a project that was due two weeks ago? Tell him how proud you are! Even better, make a chart on the wall that can track your child’s progress. Use stickers to represent small successes leading up to a big reward. ADHD children are visual learners, and visual aids are very useful, especially with younger children.

Restrict TV and computer time. The devilry of TV and computers will be discussed in a later post, but for now, suffice it to say that TV has been shown to decrease attention span and increase a child’s demand for immediate gratification. A study by the American Academy of Pediatrics has shown that the amount of TV watched at ages 1 and 3 were both associated with attention problems at age 7. You can download the study at this link:

This is one of many peer-reviewed studies showing that even small amounts of TV time can have affects on children, particularly ADHD children, who are already programmed to latch onto immediate visual stimulation. An addition to TV and other media (such as games on your cell phone) is no joke. Child who are ADD/ADHD or on the Autism spectrum can become as addicted to visual stimulation as any drug. I have seen it both in my personal and  professional life.

If you want to encourage your ADHD child to focus, media must go. And that means you’ll have to monitor your own use of it. Watching TV around an ADHD child is kind of like drinking a beer next to a recovering alcoholic. Try decreasing your exposure a little at a time. You might be surprised how much you were missing while sitting in front of the TV or at the computer.

Timed exercise breaks. This is a no-brainer. ADHD kids have to move! To learn a little about how important this is, click here and I’ll try to convince you: Child In Motion. It will be torture to make your child sit for too long, for both of you. Ensure there is adequate time to move. Here’s the catch: once distracted, it’s hard to get them back again. Make sure there is an agreed upon break time, and stick to it with a clock.

Set your child up for success. This may seem silly, but it’s important to emphasize the need to set realistic goals. It’s easy for ADHD kiddos to become discouraged and give up, even when they’re perfectly capable of doing a task. When working with your child, make sure you’ve set a goal which will be reached during the day or learning session.

Arrange Escape Valves. This is simply giving your child a task when focusing on an assignment, such as nightly homework. Give him a minor chore, such as letting the dogs out, allowing him to move without becoming too engaged in something else.

Aromatherapy. As a physician, I’m dubious when it comes to alternative therapies, aromatherapy included. However, there have been some interesting studies about the effects of essential oils on concentration and ambient mood. In addition, essential oils are harmless (unless you drink them), so why not try them?

One group of scientists wondered how they could help patients with anosmia (people without a sense of smell). They found a regimen of inhaling certain essential oils not only improved their sense of smell, but also seemed to affect their memory (the olfactory portion of our brains is very close to our primary memory center).

Other studies showed lavender and rosemary had a statistically significant effect on anxiety, mood, memory, and analytic processing. Lavender was better than rosemary in increasing correct answers on math problems, but both improved mental processing times and improved mood.

The studies around aromatherapy are really so interesting, I will cover them in another article which will not only review the current studies, but provide the correct way to use oils. For now, having the scent of Lavender around your child while he or she studies may have beneficial effects.

I hope this article was helpful. There are so many techniques out there for dealing with distracted children, it would be impossible to cover them all. In the end, you must find what works best for your child. It won’t always be easy.

Some days, it will be a major victory just to convince your son to wear pants.

And that’s okay.

An Elementary Mistake

You know, there’s a lot of social engineering we take for granted.

 Media. Organized religion. Politics. Public education.

We have allowed these social machines to make decisions for us, with the pretense of being vital to our happiness and, perhaps, our very survival. Even when we recognize their flaws, they continue to grow thanks to hungry commercial industries that profit from social engineering. While I can wax poetic about each of these topics (and will gladly do so in the future! I know! You’re thrilled!), this article tackles the giant manufactory of public education. My goal: to convince you that Schooling is essentially the Force. Oh yeah, really. Just look what it has done to these children:

Don’t let the Force destroy your child’s destiny…

Indeed. You see the inherent dangers. Like the Force, school has a light side and a dark side, and seems to hold everything together. And, lest we realize too late we’re serving Sith Lords, we may wish to consider the degree we allow schooling to dictate our lives.

Consider… we arrange our lives around a system which takes our children for a large portion of their early lives. That seems potentially dangerous to me, and we know many of our schools fail to meet minimum standards. Despite this, our society treats the school system as a moral paragon, which only ignorant, stubborn, ingrates reject. But… are homeschoolers the problem, or has traditional schooling robbed us of our children’s most precious years? Even worse, maybe the system actually does what its supposed to do?

Meaning… has the system been a huge success… at generating standard citizens?

Everyone is under the impression our children can live up to their greatest potential in America. Well, my ADHD husband, the son of a physician who could afford to send her son to private school his entire life, has a few things to say about that (a topic for another time). He had a faux impression of being given every opportunity. Everyone believed it, including his parents and his teachers. Oh, Robert, you have so much potential, but you’re just not motivated. And that’s what he heard his entire childhood until college. Then the mantra changed: oh Robert, you just can’t get yourself together. He was in his 30s before he started to think, maybe, the problem was trying to force himself through an improperly shaped cookie-cutter for too long. School may work for the 100% average student, but who determined what an average student should be? I’ll tell you presently. But I warn you, you’re not going to like it.

The “American Dream” is saturated by scholastic pedagogy. Education is the most extolled virtue in our country, immediately behind another dangerous, naive naive belief that with enough hard work you can get it/do it/be it. But here’s the problem: A majority of Americans have lost faith in achieving the Dream, which, to me, means its foundation was never sound to begin with.


We must routinely question the foundations, especially when they’re tied to American identity and self-worth. So why don’t we? Well… read on.

Now, I’m not an education, history, or psychology expert. I’m just a mom with a slightly unconventional family… different enough to realize the system doesn’t work for us, but “normal” enough to see hundreds of other families in the same boat. While I can’t claim to reveal any great epiphanies, my friends, family, and employers can assure you I have one unique trait, one that allows me to crash through institutionalized walls like a crazed Kool-Aid man. That talent? I am fantastic at being a giant pain in the system’s ass. Oh yes, my friends. From day one, I was sprinting down the off-beaten path, my two middle fingers kept in check only by holding a giant megaphone to ensure everyone knew how I felt about it. If the system was a cashmere sweater, I’d be the uncultured jerk picking at its lose threads. Unraveling the status quo is my forte.

ahem, anyway…I admit it wasn’t until recently that I started to question the methods, practices, and history of public schooling. After all, I was in public school since kindergarten, and look how awesome I turned out!

world of warcraft

(I know, right? Just what I said…this is how everyone plays World of Warcraft.)

Now that I have done my research, I can’t look back.  But with our announcement to homeschool, we were reminded not everyone felt it was a good idea. In other words, our change of clothes was not only a social faux pas, but an assumed criticism of other people’s fashion.

“Come now, dahling, surely you can see those cashmere sweaters are getting threadbare! Can’t we interest you in this delightful super suit?”

Removing Kallan mid-kindergarten was met with stone-faced stares, tears, sadness, and downright anger. On average, however, the emotion was simple apprehension and worry about Kallan’s education. When Kallan was enrolled in Kindergarten, I was 100%  pro-public school. I never even questioned it. My thought process was: Son = 5 years old = Kindergarten. I knew about homeschooling, of course, but it was always that weird thing religious fundamentalists did to ensure their kids weren’t infected with ridiculous…. ideas.


(“Peace be with you, clever girl.”)

When Kallan’s mood and school work started to suffer, however, I realized I was left with the options of homeschooling or private school. Then I realized private school wouldn’t solve anything. The reason he was unhappy was because the system wasn’t made for an ADHD child. So, homeschooling was the only real alternative.

We started talking about it, with considerable apprehension. But as my research continued, I realized the apprehension wasn’t from any actual proof homeschooling was harmful. Rather, it was from the unspoken assumption that education was best left to the experts. The basic theory is as follows: Children’s education should be left to trained educators for the same reason haircuts should be left to trained stylists — doing it yourself will likely result in a lopsided hairdo, eventually requiring a buzz cut to fix everything you fucked up.

Well, I cannot deny that I suck at cutting my kid’s hair.


But, uneven bangs have only added to his adorable charm! Likewise, I came to believe this change in education, while unconventional, was completely within our ability to manage at home. Not only was it something we could accomplish, but, I realized, something we could do better than anyone else.

I will share the questions I asked, then you can see what you make of my findings. If you’re debating homeschooling, trying to convince a spouse/family member, or are my mother and terrified of more lopsided haircuts (love you, mom), then the following  may be worth your time.  Don’t be apprehensive — I’m only going to point out how your entire childhood was completely wasted by the system. :D

Question 1: Where did public education come from, anyway?

Remember when I asked who was responsible for determining what an average child should look like? The answer is surprising, and there’s no way to discuss it without sounding like some kind of basement troll conspiracy theorist. In a nutshell, when we talk about public education, we are referring to compulsory schooling. Meaning, mandatory attendance of school, six hours a day, five days a week, nine months a year, for twelve years. Do we actually need that much schooling to transmit fundamental academics?  Really? Have you ever asked? And if you did, were you ever given satisfactory proof of its necessity? There is no evidence, at all, anywhere, to prove children need formal education for that long. Benjamin Franklin, who lived before compulsory schooling laws went into effect, started his own Independent Newspaper when he was 15 years old. Can you imagine if he had been forced to remain in public school until 18? What could today’s children accomplish if their entire day, week, and year were not determined by what is, when you think about it, a rather uncompromising and entrapping schedule.

Before compulsory schooling, children learned from family and their community. They often found apprenticeships around 13 (what today is considered a helpless child), and learned a trade by doing. Children were not removed from the community, but were an active, creative, and necessary part of it. These days, if you see kids at the store during a Monday afternoon, they are out of place. That doesn’t seem right. What has the American culture done to itself?

Compulsory schooling became a thang in the early 1900s, about the time  a tremendous number of epic douchebags were diving into their vaults of gold. You may recall their names: George Peabody, Andrew Carnegie, and John D. Rockefeller are a few.

These were the Scrooge McDucks of their age, and they realized mandatory education was the most effective way of creating a harmless electorate, servile labor force, and horde of mindless consumers. I wish I was being dramatic.

Before these social barons got involved, school was not something one went to, nor was it a legal obligation. Washington, Franklin, Jefferson, Lincoln…these dudes were not the products of a school system. They were self-educated men, and they excelled because they pursued their passions. Lincoln, for example, had less than a year of formal schooling, and the majority of his childhood was spent as a farmer and carpenter (this is why he was good with the ax). Still think we need 12 years of structured schooling? Here’s a fun aside.

Everyone knows Lincoln is one of the most famous lawyers in history, but he didn’t study law, he read law, and he passed the bar at 27 years old. Being a country man, he was out of his league when asked to defend a high-profile, city client. The city lawyers sharing the case thought Lincoln was dumber than snake mittens, so they basically stood him up when the case was moved to another city. Realizing the game had changed, Lincoln identified what he didn’t know, filled the gaps, then PWNed those jerks at a later date as the president. BOOM!

The basic idea behind mandatory school laws was essentially Social Darwinism — a method of ensuring poor and middle class children were not misfits in the streets, but productive members of society… productive for the social elite, that is. You see, in Lincoln’s time, our society was still (mostly) Libertarian. Everyone was still inventing stuff. Gobs and gobs of fantastic inventions and patents galore. But, the country was making a gradual shift from a productive economy of rural start-ups (when innovation is necessary for survival), to industrialized consumerism. It started with the Civil War, then bled into the World Wars. Compulsory attendance laws would be the legacy of an after-war world.

So, lets jump back to the business barons.

Let’s introduce Rockefeller.


Do yourself a favor and research this man, for his legacy is still affecting our politics. Look at that quote. Good God. What a privileged jerkface. Even now, our congress is fighting over building the Keystone Pipeline, a giant, environmentally destructive project which puts money in the hands of oil men (when we should obviously be investing in green energy). Like all epicly rich dudes, Rockefeller was into oil. He was the co-founder of the Standard Oil Company, which made him the world’s richest man, and the first to be worth more than a billion dollars. At the time of his death, his fortune was 1.5% of the American economy.

Holy shit.

Rockefeller did a lot of good for society and revolutionized philanthropy, but his personal motives were questionable, especially when set beside the wishes of the average, poor/middle class populace. Rockefeller’s projects were guided by two principles: Fundamentalist Baptism and Social Darwinism. I don’t have time to go into Social Darwinism here, but let’s summarize it as “not great.” Social Darwinism became a mechanism abused and distorted by politicians to declare blacks racially inferior, to forcefully sterilize mentally retarded people, and so on, ad nauseam.

Rockefeller formed the General Education Board in 1902. This is the point in American’s history when education fell under the control of the government. And it never left. As parents, we don’t think of our kid’s class room as government property, but it is. Behind the colorful billboards and smell of glue, hides the ever present government process at work. And who is in charge of school boards now? Lobbyists and corporations. Why are they so interested in public education? The answer is that public education is a hugely profitable business, worth about 650 billion dollars a year.

Because we’re used to seeing it, one has to stop to consider the influence commercialism has on our schools. When I was a Junior in High School, a product called Surge came onto the market, though it didn’t last long. It was a highly caffeinated, highly-sugared drink, a forerunner of today’s hugely successful energy drink culture. One can of Surge was 230 calories, 62 grams of carbs, and 51 mg of caffeine. I remember thinking it was “so cool” our school allowed Surge representatives to come to our assembly and toss free drinks to kids, during school hours. Now as an adult, and particularly as a physician, I am horrified my school allowed us to consume that kind of trash and I wonder what the administration got in exchange for hooking some of us on a drink that was a major contributor to childhood and adolescent obesity.

When I was in middle school, we attended a school-wide assembly to listen to a representative for “Bring it to the Max.” The speaker was skilled at motivational techniques, and he got us excited about selling magazines in exchange for small rewards. I remember being told if I sold ten magazines, I’d get some stupid key chain. The rewards escalated. If I could get a hundred subscriptions, I got something uber cool, like a set of shelves for my locker. The highest rewards included weekend vacations and bikes. The school earned money based on how much we sold. Man, I left there completely psyched to sell magazines! It consumed my next few weeks, and I was devastated when I couldn’t sell enough for a fun prize. I remember crying on the final day, because I had less than ten sales (all pity purchases). Looking back, I’m furious my school used me in such a way. And no one, including my family, saw the problem with a school using its students as private fundraisers. I can’t blame them. I mean, every public school was doing something similar.

Today, public students are forced to watch commercial-filled Channel One (a privately owned, “student-aimed” channel), to see Pepsi and Coke posters and vending machines in their hallways, to use curriculum materials printed by Shell Corporation and other big oil companies,  and thousands of similar exposures. Teachers, also, are the victims of commercial interests, often forced to adhere to government contracts to purchase school materials, or stick to “school-aka-corporate-approved” lists of subjects to cover. We cannot remain ignorant about the advertising aimed at our children, or the corporate bias influencing our schools.

The institutionalization goes further than academic exposure. It’s seen in the environment. Our schools often look like prisons or nuclear bunkers, with rows upon rows of straight desks, controlled activities, and schedules dictated by bells:

The first floor hallway in PS 149.

When I was in middle school, our principal decided there was too much talking in the hallways. Maybe this was true. We had hundreds of students in one building, and all regurgitated into the halls for four minutes between classes. In our hurried attempts for socialization, we congested the pathways. However, the chosen option was to demarcate small squares where conversation could occur. Squares were duct-taped in the hall, allowing for a max of three children to have conversation. Anyone talking outside was given punitive actions. Nice. Real nice.

All this because corporations were given free licence to use public education for their own benefit.

Just to emphasize the degree of corporate influence in the early 1900s, consider that, for many years, only two men, Rockefeller and his buddy,  Carnegie (of the Carnegie Foundation), spent more money on forced schooling’s early years than the government. They funded teachers, schools, Universities, and curriculum. They influenced the Education Board by awarding grants to those who followed along without complaint. And here was their philosophy, according to Frederick Gates, who was Rockefeller’s business adviser.

“In our dream we have limitless resources, and the people yield themselves with perfect docility to our molding hand.  The present educational conventions fade from our minds; and, unhampered by tradition, we work our own good will upon a grateful and responsive rural folk.  We shall not try to make these people or any of their children into philosophers or men of learning or of science.  We are not to raise up among them authors, orators, poets, or men of letters.  We shall not search for embryo great artists, painters, musicians.  Nor will we cherish even the humbler ambition to raise up from among them lawyers, doctors, preachers, statesmen, of whom we now have ample supply.”

Shocking, isn’t it?

If you want a complete timeline of compulsory education, here is a decent summary: Timeline of Compulsory Education

Public education was founded on the concept that, if you came from working class society, you didn’t go to school to learn (that was for private schools), you went to be taught how to be a good worker. Only then would you be effective fuel in the furnace of the industrial revolution. Furthermore, the corporate moguls used the Prussian educational system to base American school on. Yeah… Prussia really wasn’t the leader in hands-on enlightening experiences. Unless you were talking about a public flogging, in which case you might be quite satisfied.

So, how did Prussia surgically extract the soul from its children? By ensuring kids were separated by age, subject, and performance grading. Sound familiar? So, lets’ talk about those grades…

Question 2: Who Gives a Shit about Grades?

For adults, our time to escape the system is passed. Let’s face it… we learned to perform solely for the purpose of single letters.

That’s right. Grades. Oversimplified symbols representing our worth, intelligence, potential, and ability to please the institution. We lived our childhoods under the shadow of  A, B, C, D, and F. Let me say that again: our entire childhood, meaning a minimum of 12 years (since most public schools require you, by law, to be present in school from the ages of 6 to 18), was aimed toward the goal of earning a grade. This is such a prevalent part of American life we persistently fail to recognize how absolutely ridiculous it is. Unless you’re reading The Scarlet Letter, I defy you to tell me how a letter describes one’s worth. It can’t. Just look at the ways a person’s character is graded by a teacher in this example:

Report cards

After discussing corporate machinations, the idea of getting grades on character traits is spine chilling. Just look at the “worthy” traits… exactly what you hear about in corporate training when you get a new job. What about innovation? Creativity? Leadership?

In addition, there is no evidence out there that grades mean anything. No study has ever found a correlation between intelligence, quality, innovation, or potential, and the degree of one’s “good grades.” We constantly talk about how Einstein failed math and became a genius who changed our world. In other words, the uselessness of grades is part of our culture’s mythology, and yet, we still focus on getting good grades above anything else. It seems nothing is more important than good grades. If you have time, watch this documentary. Consider how brilliant this young man is, then watch him decline into anxious failure as he is forced to produce his work according to format. Then consider the reaction of well meaning parents and teachers, none of them who question that, maybe, the school is the problem:

Parents know there is more to our children than what is on a grade report, but that hasn’t stopped us from allowing our children to be filed under a grading system. I had it easy. I was one of the few who didn’t have to struggle to make good grades. Therefore, I didn’t think about it much. In fact, I was proud I didn’t have to struggle, and I admit it gave me a bit of intellectual superiority. Today, I realize I was one of the completely average children the school system was designed for. I am the factory worker. And now I’m a doctor working for a major corporation. I’m proud of my work, and I work for a company who treats me well, but there’s a part of my soul wishing to throw off the shackles and run to foreign countries to provide mission work. Maybe, some day, I will. Or, maybe I will remain a corporate monkey to ensure my children have the resources to escape the system. Who knows.

Let’s take my husband’s childhood as the opposite example. He has a spontaneous genius that far outweighs my textbook regurgitation. Yet, his entire youth was one giant string of anxieties and disappointments, all over his grades. An ADHD kid trying to make A’s in an institution already designed to cripple his natural learning style? It’s no wonder he started to have self confidence issues in fourth grade, when homework and grades start to count. Soon, school was nothing but a progressive trial in trying to prove he was a smart and worthy human being, all the while constantly disappointing teachers and parents. It’s not fair, and it’s a dumb way to waste a child’s potential. Was getting assignments in on time and making good grades really a measure of his intelligence and capability? Obviously not.

So, think about it. Really think about it. What does a grade mean? Anything of actual value? Prove it. All that time we spent making A’s?


It should have been spent learning something of value. Nature walks. Finishing the book you couldn’t put down. Exercising. Enjoying the evening with friends. Getting sleep. A thousand happy moments were wasted typing papers and filling out worksheets. And frankly, many of us are still recovering from the damage it caused.

Grades are necessary for college entrance, to give colleges a number (your GPA) for which to rank you. That is the only purpose of grades and, frankly, there’s something a little evil about it. How will my son’s life be different if he isn’t worried about making As? I’m not sure, but I’m going to find out.

Question 3: Don’t We Need Trained Educators to Teach Our Kids?

Um. Nope. Sorry. I’m not saying grade school teachers are worthless buttheads that should go get real jobs. On the contrary, I had delightful teachers as a child who had great personal interest in my life. But the truth is, it doesn’t take a degree to teach a child. They are naturally programmed to learn and the more we interfere with turning education into a process, the more harm we are likely to do.  And, in an effort to maintain Core Measures (more about that elsewhere), we are stunting our children’s growth. No Child Left Behind? More like, No Child Gunning Ahead, or No Child with Actual Enthusiasm. Or, even, No Teacher with Freedom. Do they really need to have every aspect of what they learn spelled out?

The answer is yes, if you’re attempting to make an army of employees and consumers.

But if you want your children to flourish? Let them manage their education themselves. Evolution has given us a delightful, complex, and wondrous brain capable of doing just that.  As products of the system, parents believe we are not competent to teach our children, but who could be more qualified? We do not need advanced degrees or training in childhood education to identify a child’s enthusiasm and to foster it. If you find a topic you are unfamiliar with? Learn it with your child!

When you free yourself from school’s schedule, you free up a fantastic amount of time to teach your children. Think  about the amount of time taken up by BS when you went to school: the time spent getting into lines, monitored lunch breaks, pep assemblies, changing classes at the bell, etc. Then think about the amount of time spent on projects that were meaningless! How often did you ask a teacher, “but what is the point?!” Just think how much children prepare for standardized testing (since good scores on standard tests are how schools get funding)?

In other words, how much actual learning takes place in which kids are interested in the subject matter, and the subject matter actually applies to usable skills? Now, imagine your child being free to pursue whatever he or she is into at the moment. Every day is open for them to jump into their passions, get involved in a volunteer project, or find an apprenticeship. That’s learning!

In the end, if you’ve made it this far, I hope I’ve convinced you that public schooling has questionable motives and questionable execution, and I hope I’ve given you some ammunition for those questioning your decision to home school. Keep in mind that what I’ve written about here are only three simple tracks leading into a much deeper rabbit hole.

Children are the best part of us. Don’t be afraid to teach them. Don’t be afraid to stand up to the establishment on their behalf. And, if public school is something you cannot escape, don’t be afraid to question school authority.

And try not to think too much about how much Surge you drank in high school. After all, you only need one kidney.